We Know About Relationship Red Flags – But What About Green Flags?

By: Sabrina Peters

In our pursuit of love, we frequently pay close attention to red flags – those little signals that alert us to potential pitfalls and challenges of a relationship.

However, what about the green flags? These are the often-unnoticed yet equally vital indicators that lead us towards the right relationship and help us build stronger ones. They represent the presence of qualities and actions that foster, reinforce, and uphold the kind of relationships I’m sure we all want.

So, lets explore these green flags together!


Shared values, beliefs, and goals provide a solid and enduring foundation for a healthy relationship. Scientific research consistently shows that commonality in core values not only strengthens the bond between partners but also contributes significantly to relationship stability and long-term satisfaction.


Commitment in a relationship signifies a deep and unwavering investment in one another and in the partnership itself. Healthy relationships require the consistent allocation of time, energy, and effort from both individuals. Studies reveal that commitment is not only a fundamental pillar of relationship longevity but also a key predictor of overall satisfaction in a partnership that stands the test of time.


Empathy, the remarkable ability to genuinely understand and validate your partner’s perspective and emotions, is essential in building profound emotional intimacy. Empathic communication fosters a deep and meaningful connection between partners, fostering not only a stronger partnership but also a deeper spiritual connection between you and your loved one.


Safety in a relationship encompasses emotional, psychological, and physical aspects that create a profound sense of security. It involves expressing thoughts and feelings without fear, resolving conflicts with empathy and respect, setting and respecting boundaries, and ensuring physical safety.


Achieving the delicate balance between togetherness and independence is essential for the health of any relationship. Research suggests that couples who find joy in both shared experiences and personal time report higher levels of relationship satisfaction. This interdependence fosters a sense of unity and collaboration, where each person contributes to the relationship’s well-being and draws strength from their connection. Striking this equilibrium allows for the preservation of individuality while fostering a deep and connected partnership.


Open, honest, and respectful communication stands as a linchpin of healthy relationships. Partners who express their needs, thoughts, and feelings while valuing their partner’s perspective tend to experience greater relationship satisfaction and emotional intimacy. Effective communication skills are vital for navigating the complexities of a deep and fulfilling connection.


Honesty in words and actions is crucial for building trust and emotional intimacy in a relationship. Scientific research underscores the importance of honesty in fostering healthy connections that stand the test of time. It is the cornerstone upon which lasting and meaningful relationships are built.


A cornerstone of any Christian relationship, should be a Christ-centered foundation. In Christ-centered relationships, faith is not just a component; it’s the bedrock upon which the partnership is built. Both individuals prioritise their relationship with Christ, seeking to live out His teachings of love, grace, and compassion in their interactions with each other. They nurture their spiritual connection through shared prayer, worship, and a commitment to grow together in faith. Christ is at the center of every decision, and His example guides their actions, demonstrating the Christian value of putting God first in all things.


Humility involves acknowledging our own limitations, being quick to listen, slow to anger, and willing to admit when we are wrong. Humility fosters an environment of mutual respect and openness, where both partners recognise their imperfections and seek God’s guidance and grace in their interactions. Humility allows for genuine forgiveness and reconciliation, mirroring Christ’s example of humility in His relationships with humanity.

Let these green flags serve as both your compass and a constant reminder.

About the Author: Sabrina is a writer, pastor and relationships blogger. She is passionate about Jesus and changing the way people think about God, relationships and sex.

Article supplied with thanks to Sabrina Peters.

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